Maybe you want to experience stronger orgasms? Or maybe you just want to add something new to your sex life. It’s all good.
Getting your girl to squirt isn’t as simple and your everyday shenanigans. Read these tips and techniques to better arm yourself.
1. SET THE MOOD
There is no way you can make your girl squirt unless you adhere to this cardinal rule. Because she needs to be relaxed enough to get into the moment and give herself over fully. Any tension or worry (what so ever) will fight against her orgasm.
- Light some candles
- Watch porn
- Put on the mood music she likes best
- Wear something alluring
- Wear the perfume or cologne she loves
- Clean the bedroom
There’s no right or wrong. Anything is okay as long as she’s into it. Remember, the biggest sex organ is the brain.
2. GET HER AROUSED
After setting the mood, you’ll still need adequate time to BUILD her arousal as high as you can.
Try some of these:
- Give her an erotic massage, complete with scented massage oil
- Go dom on her (if that’s what she likes) and get a bit rough
- Whisper dirty things into her ear … while nibbling on it
- Show off your kissing skills
- Caress her in places that make her shiver
- Give her some utterly amazing oral sex
And, give her LOTS of it. This is not the time to rush to the main event.
Find any way to have her let go of all anxiety or racing thoughts and focus on the sensations in her body.
3. PAY LOTS OF ATTENTION TO THE GSPOT
If you don’t know where it is, feel along the anterior wall of the vagina about 2 inches in.
It feels like a nub or bump with a different texture than the surrounding tissue. It also changes to a “spongy” texture and engorged as a woman gets aroused.
To stimulate it, make a “come hither” motion with your two fingers and massage the magic spot. Use firm but gentle (yes, that’s a thing) motions and experiment with pressures and speeds etc until you find what works for her.
If you’re not used to g-spot play, I would practice several times before aiming to make her squirt. Who knows, maybe you’ll do it by accident
IMPORTANT: Keep your fingernails cut and filed so they are short and smooth. Scraping and poking nails are not only VERY uncomfortable (or downright painful), and bacteria or general uncleanliness could contribute to an infection.
4. TRY A SEX TOY
If your fingers are getting tired (or she needs some extra sensations), don’t be afraid to call in help from a vibrating friend.
Any vibrator with a g-spot bump will work especially nice. And remember, you’ll have to ask her which power setting works or doesn’t work for her – although a vast majority of women prefer steady vibrations rather than patterns.
5. THE TENSED, SHAKING HOOK
When you feel her g-spot area engorged, it means things are swelled with liquid from the Skene’s gland and she’s very close.
Here is where you change your technique from the traditional G-spot position…
- Take your lubricated thumb or your palm (whichever works for her) and rest it on the clit.
- Keep your fingers on her g-spot. It will look like you’re making a vague letter “C” with your hands.
- You will now lock/tense your fingers, wrist, and forearm in this “hook-like” position.
- The motions then become more of a “vigorous shaking” that keeps stimulating the clit and the g-spot.
6. TELL HER IT’S OKAY TO LET GO
The squirting process is usually accompanied by the sensation of needing to “pee” (which is what stops most girls from reaching their squirting goal).
Tell her to relax and that you love her or she looks so hot – and to let go. This nudge often helps send them over the edge.
NOTE: Some women find extra help if you take your other palm and gently apply pressure to the area just below the belly button (outside, of course).
7. USE PLENTY OF LUBE
People often equate more bodily fluids with greater sexual pleasure.
This just isn’t the case.
Some girls just don’t produce as much. If so, add lots of lube to avoid any discomfort from friction.
Try water-based lube, but remember to do a spot test if it’s a new brand you’ve never tried before.
8. TEASPOONS OR TYPHOONS
Some women just don’t produce THAT much liquid when they squirt. You know, the kind you see in porn that coats the ENTIRE porn set.
Don’t let her feel bad if she can’t squirt as she or you envision.
… Actually, she probably won’t care because the orgasm will be fantastic.
9. BE PREPARED FOR THE LONG HAUL
How much time you put in depends on the women.
There should be no surprises if it’s upwards of an hour for the entire process. It CAN be less (depending on the woman), but don’t set that bar too high – this is also important because if she feels like it’s a chore or you’re not thrilled about doing the deed, you’ll ruin all the work you put into #1 and #2.
10. A NOTE ON SQUIRTING PERCEPTIONS
Don’t let anyone put you or your partner in the absurd classification of “those who can” vs “those who cannot” like it even friggin matters.
Every woman is different. Some can reach mind-blowing orgasms without having to squirt.
Like all things sex, it really boils down to what works for you and your partner.
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Have you found any other squirting tricks? Share in the comments so we can all benefit!